Being a good parent is, of course, what every parent would like to be. But defining what it means to be a good parent is undoubtedly very (1)_____, particularly since children respond differently to the same style of parenting. A calm, rule-following child might respond better to a different sort of parenting than, (2)_____, a younger sibling.

    (3)_____, there’s another sort of parent that’s a bit easier to (4)_____: a patient parent. Children of every age benefit from patient parenting. Still, (5)_____ every parent would like to be patient, this is no easy (6)_____. Sometimes parents get exhausted and frustrated and are unable to maintain a (7)_____ and composed style with their kids. I understand this.

    You’re only human, and sometimes your kids can (8)_____ you just a little too far. And then the (9)_____ happens: You lose your patience and either scream at your kids or say something that was a bit too (10)_____ and does nobody any good. You wish that you could (11)_____ the clock and start over. We’ve all been there. 

    (12)_____, even though it’s common, it’s important to keep in mind that in a single moment of fatigue, you can say something to your child that you may (13)_____ for a long time. This may not only do damage to your relationship with your child but also (14)_____ your child’s self-esteem.

    If you consistently lose your (15)_____ with your kids, then you are inadvertently modeling a lack of emotional control for your kids. We are all becoming increasingly aware of the (16)_____ of modeling tolerance and patience for the younger generation. This is a skill that will help them all throughout life. In fact, the ability to emotionally regulate or maintain emotional control when (17)_____ by stress is one of the most important of all life’s skills.

    Certainly, it’s incredibly (18)_____ to maintain patience at all times with your children. A more practical goal is to try, to the best of your ability, to be as tolerant and composed as you can when faced with (19)_____ situations involving your children. I can promise you this: As a result of working toward this goal, you and your children will benefit and (20)_____ from stressful moments feeling better physically and emotionally.

答案精析：动词辨析题。空格所在句大意为：这可能不仅会损害你和孩子的关系，还会____孩子的自尊心。not only…but also…表示两个句子前后是递进的关系，空格处所填词的感情色彩应与damage相近，表示一种消极影响。affect可以表示“产生负面影响”的意思，填入空格符合上下文语义，故B项正确。

错项排除：A项的“提高”与C项的“证明合法”在语义上都与句子中对亲子关系的负面影响不符，故排除。D项代入空格表示“反映孩子的自尊心”，逻辑不通，故排除。